There are some great books available on all aspects of sex, but it can sometimes be difficult to separate the good from the not-so-good. Here are some of the best relating to masturbation and acheiving orgasm.
How to Have an Orgasm...As Often As You Want by Rachel Swift Written with style and sophistication, this sensible book is a straightforward, easy-to-follow guide that will teach women how to have as many orgasms as they want, with or without the full cooperation of their partner. Swift deals with what really happens during sex, not what is supposed to happen.
Woman's Orgasm: A Guide to Sexual Satisfaction by Georgia Kline-Graber, G. K. Graber, Benjamin Graber
A friend who had success with this book gave it to me and I started following it when I was desparate to learn how to orgasm. It's definately clinical but I can't believe how well it worked. Now, after 4 years of having orgasms, I still have difficulty with a partner, but the fact I can have them at all is thanks to this book! I've loaned it to a few friends and it worked for them too!
Good Vibrations: The New Complete Guide to Vibrators by Joani Blank, Ann Whidden (Contributor), Marcia Quackenbush (Illustrator)
Joani Blank, founder of the legendary "Good Vibrations" feminist sex shop, has made it her life's mission to take the sleaze and embarrassment out of sex toys, and to provide women (and men) with honest, friendly information to help them pick their way through the vast range of products, ranging from the shoddy to the wonderful, that the "adult toy" industry has to offer. This book gives you a "guided tour" of the many different types of vibrator and helpful advice on how to choose the one that's right for you (and what to do with it once you've got it).
Whether you're looking for a vibrator to help you to orgasm for the first time, or to spice up an already wonderful sex life (or anything in between) - think of this book as the product guide that you won't ever find in a consumer magazine!
The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex by Anne Semans (Contributor), Cathy "Good Vibrations Guide to Sex" Winks
This is a sex manual of a special sort. It starts with the basics ("Sexual Anatomy 101," "Communications," "Masturbation") aimed at teaching the reader to receive and give pleasure. Other chapters ("Lubrication," "Creative Touching," "Oral Sex," "All About Vibrators," "Fantasies") describe how to enhance the sexual experience. You'll get answers to questions you never knew to ask: how to keep dildos clean, what is "packing," what is the appeal of S/M, for example. A substantial chapter on "Safer Sex" offers techniques both expected (use a condom) and unexpected (put it on him using your mouth). Quotations from real people about their sexual pleasures lend interest and eroticism. Explicit line drawings show sex between male-female, male-male, and female-female partners, as well as solitary acts with vibrators. "In our fantasies, we dream of this book with its cracked spine and well-thumbed pages lying on your nightstand next to your vibrator, lube, massage oil and condoms," write the authors. For education and entertainment, this book is a winner. --Joan Price
The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot by Cathy Winks
Most sex manuals seem to depend on making the reader feel inadequate and then promising a "fix" (often a new, improved brand of orgasm, for all those benighted readers who were having the "wrong sort"). And a lot of this has revolved around the fabled "G-spot".
This book is a clear, informative and friendly antidote to all that. It explains the latest anatomical and physiological research on what the "G-spot" actually is (not a spot inside the vagina at all, but the urethral sponge in front of it), and gives a practical guide to the various tips, techniques and toys for stimulating it. Throughout, the author is careful to emphasize that, while some women love G-spot pressure, others don't get a lot out of it, or actually find it uncomfortable. The focus is on finding out what you personally enjoy, not setting yourself a new performance goal.
As someone who loves G-spot stimulation, I got a lot out of this book. But so did a friend of mine, who heaved a great sigh of relief on finding out that she was also perfectly normal for finding that G-spot stimulation just made her feel as if she needed to pee.
Understanding the G-Spot and Female Sexuality by Donald L. Hicks Do you long to help your lover experience the "Big O" she'll never forget? Are you ready to learn the truth about the G-Spot, Female Ejaculations, Blended Orgasms, and other aspects of female sexuality? If so, this book is for you. Through a unique marriage of clinical fact and everyday application, this guide combines the latest research findings of world-renowned sexologists and physicians with feedback drawn from over 1000+ surveyed people. People from all walks of life. People...just like you. In this innovative guide, you'll learn a proven and tested "10-Step technique" that can be used by anyone to evoke the G-Spot's awesome power. You'll also learn: 1) How to find the G-Spot 2) How to stimulate and arouse the G-Spot from its latent slumber 3) Why the G-Spot exists 4) How to self-stimulate the G-Spot 5) The truth behind Female Ejaculation: how and why it occurs 6) Why some women have difficulty reaching orgasm and how to overcome this problem 7) The latest findings in sexual research 8) How to achieve blended orgasms
The Technology of Orgasm: "Hysteria," the Vibrator, and Women's Sexual Satisfaction (Johns Hopkins Studies in the History of Technology) by Rachel P. Maines For centuries, women diagnosed with "hysteria"--a "disease paradigm," in Rachel P. Maines's felicitous phrase, thought to result from a lack of sexual intercourse or gratification--were treated by massaging their genitals in order to induce "paroxysm." Male physicians, however, considered the practice drudgery, and sought various ways of avoiding the task, often foisting it off on midwives or, starting in the late 19th century, employing mechanical devices. Eventually, these devices became available for purchase and home use; one such "portable vibrator" is advertised in the 1918 Sears, Roebuck catalog as an "aid that every woman appreciates." The Technology of Orgasm is an impeccably researched history that combines a discussion of hysteria in the Western medical tradition with a detailed examination (including several illustrations) of the devices used to "treat" the "condition." (Maines is somewhat dismissive of the contemporary, phallus-shaped models, which she describes as "underpowered battery-operated toys," insisting that "it is the AC-powered vibrator with at least one working surface at a right angle to the handle that is best designed for application to the clitoral area.") Don't expect any cheap thrills, though; the titillation Maines offers is strictly intellectual.
A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting by Deborah Addington This book is very slim -- there are only about 100 pages in it and much space is taken up with line drawings. It's understandable that the book is so slender since there really aren't volumes of information to impart on the subject, but I really wish the book had been longer. The book does covers the information very well and thoroughly. There is no way to make the information sections of the book longer without artificially stretching it out. As it is, vaginal fisting is a topic best suited to an article, not a full-length book. There is a section near the end of the book with poems and stories about fisting, written by people other than the author. I would have enjoyed it if that section had been expanded, even if it went so far as to take up half the total volume of the book. I was hungry for more information about fisting and would have liked to have seen more on the table at my feast of information.
But even if the reader is disappointed by the quantity of written material, they will not be disappointed by the quality. The author quite obviously knows what she is talking about and has produced a very clear and concise guide to an exotic activity that is one of the less understood forms of pleasure sharing available to adventurous and exploratory couples. Addington discusses safety information, hand positions, necessary and desirable supplies to have on hand, and even more obscure topics such as fisting after a hysterectomy. There is one personal account by a woman who tried fisting but did not enjoy it. I would have liked to have seen more varied accounts, especially stories about difficulties (whether overcome or not) and problems with fisting. I was also surprised that no one, not even the author, mentioned the cathartic or healing experiences that some people can have during a fisting experience. Most of the descriptions of what it feels like to be fisted focused on the sensation of being very full and on a very spiritual level of trust and intimacy. In my experience, this is just one hue of the spectrum of sensations and emotions that can accompany fisting.
Having personal experience with this subject, I can say that Addington has covered the physical territory very well and produced a book that is a good information source for beginning explorations in this intense, cathartic, orgasmic activity. I feel comfortable recommending this book to anyone who is curious about adding this activity to their sex life. Those already participating in fisting will probably not gain anything new from this book (other than the few poems, line drawings and one-page personal accounts) but those who have never been introduced to fisting by a friend or lover will learn quite a bit in the pages of Addington's book.
Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partner Sex by Betty Dodson, Ph.D. Betty Dodson, Ph.D., is an international authority on sexual self-help and the author of the multimillion-copy bestseller Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving. She has devoted three decades of her life to sexual liberation for both women and men.
In Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex, Dr. Dodson debunks the myths that keep us from having satisfying—and mutually satisfying—sex lives. She shows us how to be happier and healthier through the benefits of pleasure, and she shows us how to get to know ourselves and our partners better, whether it’s the inner and outer workings of the anatomy or the best sex toys to bring to bed.
She writes often from her own experiences, because she feels people learn best through example, and she writes from the knowledge acquired through years of working with women and men, teaching workshops, and doing research. The knowledge gained through reading Orgasms for Two is like having a kindly, remarkably frank guide tell you all the things you’ve always wanted to know but never had anyone to ask.
Open Orgasms for Two and see how rewarding it is to cast aside conventional beliefs about sexuality and begin to enjoy the best sex of your life.
"Everyone has a right to keep his or her sex life private. The reason I'm willing to go public with mine is because it has been proven to me time and again that the most effective way to teach something as subjective as sexual pleasure is by using the power of example. Since the seventies, I have shared my challenges and successes in the process of exploring sexual pleasure. What is happening to me in terms of my sexuality is not an isolated incident taking place in a vacuum. The chances are good that many other people are dealing with similar issues.
Although the idea of pleasure might be frivolous in a world that appears to be on the brink of horrible disasters, I believe one of our best hopes for survival depends upon embracing and celebrating human sexuality as a healing force." -- Betty Dodson, Ph.D.
Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm by Kim Cattrall, Fritz Drury (Illustrator), Mark Levinson Pleasing color sketches and simple diagrams adorn the pages of Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm by famed Sex and the City actor Kim Cattrall and her husband, jazz musician Mark Levinson. The fact that Cattrall's character on the show, Samantha Jones, is a sexual giantess is likely to bump up sales a notch for this attractive, children's-size book, but nevertheless it's a very worthwhile read.
Simple concepts--open communication, trust, love, and a consistent interest in pleasing one another--are the ingredients for an enriching and fulfilling sex life that can bring two people ever closer, according to the text. The facts speak for themselves: when pressed, women will confess in droves that they are sexually frustrated. It's tricky to communicate one's carnal desires to one's lover, yet both parties must be open to this type of ongoing discussion for the formula to work.
Meanwhile, a little education for men can go a long way. The concepts are basic--anyone who isn't a virgin probably knows them. But the rub lies in the consistency, the selflessness, and the patience required of the man. Cattrall and Levinson ask their male readers how they'd feel if they experienced some physical pleasure during lovemaking but never got to climax; they would likely get frustrated after a while. So an abiding devotion to pleasing the woman is a basic assumption throughout, and one that isn't commonly pointed out in such an open way elsewhere. Some readers may think Cattrall and Levinson's approach offers nothing new or exciting, but this honest reminder of what it takes to be a sensitive and satisfying lover is just what the doctor ordered
Tickle Your Fancy: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Self-Pleasure by Sadie Allison Finally, a book written to help us take control of our own sexuality! This should be required reading for all women or any person who plans on being sexually active with one! Whether you're a little shy, or a pro, you are sure to pick up some great tips and gain added confidence in an area where we all could use a bit more!!!
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak & Maneewan Chia (Author), Douglas &Rachel Abrams (Author) Intensify our SEX life
The bestselling authors of The Multi-Orgasmic Man show you and your partner how to:
# Experience intense multiple whole-body orgasms
# Pleasure each other profoundly
# Use sexuality for health and healing
# Deepen your love and spiritual relationship
Couples will discover simple step-by-step techniques for a level of sexual pleasure, intimacy, and healing they may not have known was possible. This fully illustrated guide will inspire couples to make love all night-and make love last a lifetime.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia (Author), Douglas Abrams (Author) The book is genius, pure genius I tell you! Yes the methods that are described in ths book DO work and a couple (or if you want to do the solo routine) can go for as long as they like thanks to the instructions given. The book also talks about changes that a man goes through in life and how that effects sexuality and ways to fight to keep things up (yeah, pun intended). In addition it gives advice on prostate maintainance and its erotic role during sex (believe it or not). As you read the history of the Eastern culture of which this is based in it was interesting to see how sex was seen thousands of years ago as a medicinal treatment to certain ailments. Imagine going to your doctor and he prescribes you to take two orgasms and call him in the morning. Well apparently the Chinese medicine people were on to something when they would routinely do that. Goodbye HMO's! Authors Chia and Abrams talk about the exact reason why men are tired after ejaculation and how to combat that in ways that can prolong sex to an all night event. They also give interesting information that deals with seminal retention and how that can prolong one's life and add vitality. Of course the American Medical Association isn't going to support this but what the hell, I'm 30 and am more than willing to give it a shot! This book has given me a greater perspective on sex and my abilities as a lover. I'm glad that I have this book and it was more than a worthy investment. I'm going to start my second reading soon so that I can earn my black belt in Sexual Kung Fu (read the book and you'll all see what I mean). Oh and ladies, there is an important chapter for you too in order to not only benefit from the new prowessness of your lover but to show how you can directly benefit from the excercises given. It's really neat to see how back thousands of years ago men were as concerned and eager to please their women sexually as men are today. Mr. Abrams, Mr Chia . . . thanXXX!
Male Multiple Orgasm: Step-by-Step (4th Edition) by Jack Johnston I would like to say that Jack's program is written for both men and women as it has to do with arousal, not gender. I have practiced the Keysound and have noticed tremendous effects in my own intensity of Bliss. This program uses techniques for men without ejaculation control of any form. Everything else I have seen on Amazon.com, has been about Ejaculation control, which I believe reduces the openness of the intensity. Jack's discovery makes ejaculation control obsolete!
Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve, Ph.D. Bodansky, Vera, Ph.D. Bodansky Couples who know how to give each other extreme intimate pleasure enjoy plenty of other benefits, including reduced stress and increased closeness. In this hands-on guide to getting it right, behavioral scientists Steve and Vera Bodansky describe how to give and receive remarkable orgasms, taking the experience of sex to a new level of enjoyment. Focusing primarily on women but addressing the needs of men as well, they cover anatomy in detail, address inhibitions and fears, suggest useful exercises, recommend the best positions, and most of all offer insightful advice for every technique covered. While the authors include emotional and psychological components of a relationship, they focus on how and where to touch a partner to produce the most pleasure. No matter how long a couple has been together, it's never too late - or too early - to greatly enhance sexual response.
The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm by Steve Bodansky, Vera Bodansky In this fully illustrated book by sex workshop leaders Steve and Vera Bodansky, readers delve deeper than ever before into the actual techniques for prolonged orgasm. Written for men and women, straight and gay, the book graphically, playfully, and sensually discusses the best hand and body positions, the enticements of teasing and begging, and the subtle intricacies of peaking and coming down. It also reveals little-known erogenous zones, giving specific information on the sensitivity of each area. While Extended Massive Orgasm focused on female pleasure, the authors have devoted 50 percent of this book to techniques for men. The book includes a Q&A section along with the extensive drawings and photographs.
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure by Violet Blue Many people enjoy giving and receiving cunnilingus, but where do you turn when you want to learn more about oral sex or ways to introduce it into a relationship? The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations, and tips for effectively communicating with a partner.